All the (Not-So-Good) Things That Happen When You Refuse to Take Yourself Seriously

All the (Not-So-Good) Things That Happen When You Refuse to Take Yourself SeriouslyAll the (Not-So-Good) Things That Happen When You Refuse to Take Yourself SeriouslyWhen is the last time you had an opinion but didnt share it with anyone because you didnt think anyone would care? When is the last time you got really excited about an idea you had but then never pursued it because you decided it wasnt good enough? When is the last time you started to make something but gave up before you finished because you didnt think anyone would like it?Youll read a lot of articles that tell you to Just do it- dont worry what others will think, keep going, keep persevering, dont give upBut if you dont take yourself seriously, youll never be able to take any of that advice. Because youll always be able to convince yourself that what youre doing isnt important enough.I didnt take myself seriously for a long time. I still struggle with taking myself seriously. I couldnt even put a finger on what it wa s I was doing to myself until about a year ago. But finally I realized theres this thing some people have- this ability to get excited about something theyre doing and go for it with some sort of crazy abandon. This ability to remain focused and stand firm and get on top of a mountain and shout out what they want for all to hear (so to speak).And I knew I had the ability to climb up a mountain and do the saatkorn thing, but I would always talk myself out of it. And I finally realized it was because I just didnt take myself seriously.I even struggled writing this article.Why am I writing this? This is stupid. This is repetitive. Hasnt someone else said this before but better? Do I even know what Im trying to say? No one is going to read this. I should go work on something else. This is a waste of time.Those were my thoughts almost every time I tried to create something new. I didnt take my own opinions, my ideas, or even what I wanted for my life seriously.So, What Happens When You D ont Take Yourself Seriously?You spend a lot of time dreaming but not actually doing. You come up with ideas but you stop yourself before you even try.Or you do try something but you give up quickly because you decide its not good enough, no one will like it, and it was a stupid idea anyway.But the worst part happens 10 years later when you look back on that thing you almost started and you realize there was something there. It wasnt half as bad as what you thought at the time and you might have really accomplished something if youd only stuck with it.What Happens When You Dont Take Yourself Seriously?You end up living a life you arent all that proud of. You keep waiting to do that thing that youre passionate about, you keep waiting to do that thing thats going to make you feel successful. You fill up your time with a bunch of things you think you have to do, but nothing you really want to do. You work hard and you do a good job but you also feel trapped inside yourself, putting on a show that someone else is directing.What Happens When You Dont Take Yourself Seriously?Youll eventually see someone else who had the same idea you had, but she shared it with the world, she did something with it.But it was the exact same idea you say. Yes, it was- but that person took it seriously. That person took herself seriously. That person said, This is interesting to me, so it could be interesting to someone else, and they did something with it.What Happens When You Dont Take Yourself Seriously?You resent people who do. You look at people who promote themselves and their ideas and you think theyre egotistical or ridiculous. Or you look at people who you admire and you lament the fact that you could never ever accomplish what they have.What Happens When You Dont Take Yourself Seriously?You sabotage yourself. You rush through a half-hearted execution and dont give yourself the time you need to learn something new, or do it the right way. And what happens? It doesnt turn out th e way you wanted and then, boom Youve proven yourself right- it was a total waste of time. But you might have had a totally different outcome if youd first accepted the fact that it might take time but that the time would be worth it because you believed in it.What Happens When You Dont Take Yourself Seriously?You get depressed. You get angry with yourself. You get disappointed in yourself. You wonder why you havent done anything. You feel like you never will. You feel like its too late. But its not.Every piece of every tiny little thing youve ever thought is filled with possibilities. You dont know what. And thats scary. You might not yet know how. And thats hard. But when you take yourself seriously, you give yourself enough credit to know that you can figure it out. When you know in your heart that you and your ideas are important, you will give every idea you have a fighting chance.That might mean speaking up at work. Or it might mean just finishing that one thing youve been thi nking about forever. Or it might mean tweeting about it, making a video or blog post about it, or getting on a stage and sharing it with an audience.When you take yourself seriously you will make others take you seriously. You will put your ideas out there. You wont hide them. You wont delete them. You will keep trying.Take Yourself SeriouslyDont treat your ideas like theyre nothing, dont treat yourself like youre nothing, because you and your ideas are important and meaningful and have the potential to become so much more than you realize.Trust me. More From The Cooper ReviewThe Difference Between Living in New York and San FranciscoThe Future of Work in 5 Charts10 Tricks to Appear Smart in MeetingsThis article and the illustrations were originally published on Medium by Sarah Cooper. It has been republished here with permission.